exchange of personal vows

The exchange of personal vows is something I will do my best to encourage you to do. It is usually a source of trepidation for a couple, but it adds so much to the ceremony.

I recommend this come between the Declaration of Intent ("I Do's) and the (Formal) Exchange of Rings. This is not really an "I vow..." exchange as much as a sharing of feelings on your wedding day.

Here is an example of some "ground rules" that work for a lot of couples:

  • You don't have to memorize them--I will have them printed and ready on a piece of paper and I will even hold and hand them to you when it's time!
  • You can both email me your vows ahead of time so I can assure you both they are "compatible" in length, sentiment, etc.
  • I recommend they be 10-12 sentences, and be guided by past, present and future. Use specific rather than general statements--these are "personal" vows:
    • Past- 
      • When I first met you...
      • When I first saw you...
      • I remember when we...
    • Present
      • Today I want you to know...
      • I love you because...
    • Future
      • When I am with you I feel...
      • I will always be...
      • I look forward to our life...
      • I want to grow old...

It is really easy and I will make the process as stress-free and fun as possible. Your vows can be sincere and funny, and should reflect who you are as individuals and as a couple.

Also, here is a (silly) worksheet that may help as a thought-starter.

If you would like for me to look at your personal vows, you may email these individually to me at: scott@revscottdemarco.com

I will have your vows printed and ready for you on your ceremony day once you have settled on your final set of vows.